You know how I can tell how big your dreams are?
It’s by how much fear I feel when I think about them.
That’s right… Fear is my guidepost that I am onto something big and important. You see, I have learned that fear is the mirror image of passion and purpose. The more important my dreams are to me, the more fear I feel.
I discovered this quite accidentally for myself a few years ago. Picture this:
I was at a huge changing point in my life. I allowed myself to dream big – I mean really big – about what I wanted for my life. On every level, I could feel excitement coursing through me as I thought about how I could use my business skills and experience to enable so many other entrepreneurs with their own big dreams. And as I allowed myself to dream about what that would look like, I felt like a young girl standing at the train station waiting… clutching my ticket that was going to take me to that magical place that only exists in our wildest dreams!
And when the train rolled in and I hopped on board, along with the passion, enthusiasm and joy that I packed for the trip, can you guess which emotion also came along for the ride?
You guessed it. It wasn’t until my dream train left the station and I was on my way that I realized that fear was riding shotgun with me.
I’m sure someone could have told me what to expect.. or how to handle those emotions. I sure could have saved myself a lot of time and aggravation. But I had to learn the hard way. But I also believe these experiences are what makes me such a great coach.
Once I decided… really decided… to go after my dreams in a big way, I learned a valuable lesson about fear… I learned that the more important a goal, the bigger the emotions that come along for the ride. So while passion and enthusiasm are felt stronger, so are feelings like fear and anxiety.
So if you are serious about going after your dreams, you have to take all of the emotions. This means you have to learn how to handle them in a new way. So how did I learn to make friends with fear so I could use it to propel me forward, instead of holding me back?
By rewriting the script that fear uses.
For example. When fear says “you don’t have the knowledge or experience”… I have learned to re-write the script to “What are 3 ways I can get the knowledge I need?”… When fear says “you don’t have what it takes”, I re-write this to “what do I need and what are my options?” When fear and anxiety says, “you don’t have the money”, I rewrite it to “what are 3 ways I can get the money I need?”.
Are you starting to see a pattern? When properly stated, fear and anxiety are nothing more than a guidepost. They are guiding you to what you need to do to accomplish your dreams.
All you have to do is rewrite those statements into something more empowering. When you do that, you take the next step on your way to accomplishing your dreams.
All of your power is in your ability to make decisions and take action. And fear typically shows up in a way that prevents you from doing either. So if you really want to make progress toward your dreams and goals, then you must reframe your fear. You must CHOOSE to believe that fear is trying to help you, and not hold you back. And when you rewrite these statements into empowering questions then you sit in a place of tremendous power. You have both the ability to make good decisions AND the ability to take action. When you do that, fear – as a disempowering emotion- loses power over you. It becomes your ally and guides you on the next step.
So, while it took me several years of trying to pursue my dreams to figure this out, you can learn from my mistakes. And if you want to learn more about how you can start a business that not only makes a difference in the world, but also allows you to make an incredible salary and lead an incredible life, Email Me and I will be happy to work with you to set up a custom 1-year Action Plan – my FREE gift to you!
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.” – Ambrose Redmoon
3 stages of overcoming fear…
- We acknowledge our dreams
- We allow ourselves to think about those fears
- We are seduced by fear
- We become all consumed by fear
- We slowly allow yourself to dream again
- We find our determination, and we push through